• 3 Struggles In Military Relationships

    At Encite Counseling we work with a wide array of couples. A good size of our couples are military veterans or one of the partners is a military veteran. Here are some of the common struggles we with our military veteran couples.  It’s crucial to make this clear before you go on reading [...]

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    Hit the Snooze button on the Quarantine Haze

    Spontaneity in relationships is important even when everyone is not in quarantine-mode. Being spontaneous keeps your relationship lively and exciting. It is an unprecedented time when there has been an increase of couples who are working from home together. "You all are the experts of your [...]

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    You Decided to Stay with a Cheater

    You went through the phone last night and found some things you did not like. Your partner is cheating! Now, you have a big decision to make. You wonder what is the best decision to make. Do you stay or do you go? This is a message for those who decide to stay. You will be angry and you will [...]

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    Next Level Love

    Next Level Love- Have an anniversary coming up and you don’t know how to celebrate your partner during a pandemic? Maybe you have been cooped up with each other for too long and if your boo leaves the dishes in the sink, one more time you are going to scream! Time to refocus Please step [...]

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    5 Cheap Dates During Covid

    Out of ideas on how to keep the spark alive in a time of quarantine? Here are 5 cheap dates or ways to keep having fun with your partner without having to worry about exposing yourselves and they won’t break the bank: 1. Paint Night Take advantage of curbside pickup at Michael’s (or your [...]

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    3 Tips for Cheating Dreams

    It happens to all of us. We wake up, look at our spouses and glare at them as they just spent the entire night cheating on you in your dream. These sorts of dreams can create intense emotions and often times conflict between spouses. Here are some tips to help you deal with these dreams. 1. [...]

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    3 Tips to Understand Your Spouse Better

    Often times what I find with couples is that they have difficulty understanding each other. This difficulty comes from many different places but I am going to give you three tips to help you understand your spouse better. 1. Understand Their Reality This can be tricky because a good amount of[...]

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    3 Reasons Why A Baby Won’t Save Your Relationship

    You feel like your relationship is in a bad place, your not sure what to do. You want to make this work but things haven’t been working lately. You feel alone in a house with another person but a baby won't save your relationship. I speak to many couples who have experienced similar [...]

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    What is Couples Counseling?

    Couples counseling is not your typical sit-in-the-chair-and-how-does-that-make-you-feel type of counseling. Not that there aren’t times to ask “how does that make you feel” , but everyone including the counselor are more involved in a couples session. Whenever I begin working with a new [...]

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    Relationships Aren’t 50-50. More Like 60-40

    Often times when speak to other couples you hear the term “Well you know… Relationships are 50-50”.  What people are saying in that sentence is that both partners in a relationship have equal say in everything that happens. "Truly relationships are more like 60-40, subject dependent.[...]

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